Every stage of parenting comes with its own unique set of joys, challenges, and yes—meltdowns (from both kids and parents!). One of the most common questions moms ask each other is: “Which stage is the hardest?” Is it the sleepless newborn nights, the tantrum-filled toddler days, or the emotional rollercoaster of sending your little one off to school?
As a fellow mom navigating the chaos and cuddles of parenting, let’s break it down.
The Newborn Stage: The Exhaustion Phase
Oh, the newborn stage. The sweet smell of baby skin, the tiny onesies, and those first coos. But let’s be real—this stage is hard. You’re running on zero sleep, figuring out feeding (whether breastfeeding or formula), and you’re healing yourself while learning how to keep this tiny human alive. The days blur together, and nights can feel endless.
Why it’s tough:
Sleep deprivation hits hard. You’re adjusting to a completely new identity as a mom. The mental load is heavy, especially for first-time parents.
Yet, somehow, even in the haze, those newborn snuggles feel like magic.
The Toddler Stage: The Chaos Years
Toddlers are walking contradictions. One minute they’re giggling uncontrollably, the next they’re screaming because you gave them the blue cup instead of the green one. This stage tests your patience like no other. They’re learning boundaries—but don’t quite know how to express themselves yet. Cue the meltdowns.
Why it’s tough:
Constant supervision is needed—toddlers are busy and curious. You’re managing big emotions in a tiny body. Tantrums. In public. Enough said.
Still, nothing beats the joy of hearing “I wuv you, Mommy” for the first time.
The Kindergarten/School Stage: The Letting Go Period
Your baby is now a big kid. Suddenly, you’re packing lunches, juggling school drop-offs, helping with homework, and navigating new social dynamics. Emotionally, this stage hits different. You’re proud—but also heartbroken—watching your child become more independent.
Why it’s tough:
The pressure of routines and schedules is real. You’re no longer in control of everything—teachers, peers, and the world now influence your child. The mom guilt can sneak in: Am I doing enough?
This stage forces you to grow with your child.
So… Which Stage Is the Hardest?
The honest answer? It depends on the parent, the child, and the circumstances. Every child is different, and so is every mom. Some parents breeze through the newborn stage but struggle when their toddler finds their voice. Others feel like they’ve finally got it figured out—only to find the school years bring a whole new set of challenges.
What Really Matters
No matter which stage you’re in, give yourself grace. Parenting is hard—but you’re doing an amazing job. Every meltdown, every mess, every hug and giggle is a part of the beautiful, messy story of motherhood.
So, to all the mommies out there wondering if they’re alone in this—you’re not. We see you. We’re with you. And yes, we’re all just figuring it out one stage at a time.
Something for Everything 